Step Two

Plate and cutlery by Petr Kratochvil

Back to the basics?  Learning again how to use simple utensils?  Perhaps, but sometimes the most obvious solutions need an external pointer to illuminate them.  At least, sometime I need that help.

Today’s session went well.  My counselor asked me about what I thought of my wife as my accountability partner.  As we mulled this over back and forth, he explained that, since I ultimately value my relationship with my wife and want to spend the rest of my days with her, perhaps I could use this as motivation to interrupt processes that in the past resulted in unhealthy behaviors (e.g., “don’t stop, start”).  We discussed briefly the movie Fireproof.   He suggested that I get the book, Love Dare, and go through the 40 days as recommended.  He reminded me that I would need to do it for my own health, and not to expect or anticipate change on my wife’s part.  I almost cried!  It was obvious, and yet I missed this!

He also noted my tendency to belittle myself and suggested how I can change this: note the little successes and things that went well throughout the day.  I’ll try to twitter these.

God bless you in your journey.

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